When I design a sleep program for a child, one of the most important questions I ask my clients is "Can your partner help?" When you are doing something as important as teaching your little one to sleep through the night, it is ideal to have someone that can help you. Of course, working closely with a sleep consultant helps to keep you on track and helps you to troubleshoot problems. However, having someone else there with you along the way is beneficial. Here's why:
1) The first few nights are always the toughest. You are changing your child's usual routine to make them independent sleepers, so your child may not have the best night's sleep at first and that means that your nights aren't going to be so restful, either. It's great to have someone to alternate nights with so both of you can have a chance to catch up on your sleep. This is especially important in families where both parents work.
2) To prevent a "Good Cop, Bad Cop" dynamic. Kids are incredibly intuitive. When it's time to start sleep training, it's important for your child to learn that you and your partner will handle night time in the same exact way. Before sleep training, parents should sit down and review the program and make sure that they are on the same page with the battle plan.
3) Accountability: When you pursue a new exercise plan, or want to lose weight, it's best to have someone there to coach you along and hold you accountable for your results. If you have a partner to cheer you for your successes and help you overcome the obstacles you might face, this will help you reach the ultimate goal.
4) To win together! It's a great feeling to know that you and your partner achieved something as a team. You can empower each other to know that you were the ones that taught your child to sleep through the night on their own!
5) One-on-one time. One of the biggest questions parents ask is, "When will I have time to spend with my child?" Many dads come home from work when the baby is supposed to be getting ready for bed. Often, your little one stays up later than they're supposed to, making falling asleep harder. However, if both parents are involved with the bed time routine, it allows your child to get to bed at a reasonable hour, but also to have bonding time between you and your child.
For those single mamas out there, have no fear! Sleep training your little one on your own is just as rewarding. You get to take all the credit for your child's achievements! If there is a grandparent, aunt, uncle, close friend that can help you, enlist them to help you along the way.
To learn more about sleep training for your child, schedule a free 15 minute consultation with Melissa.